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On Passion, Love and Happy Endings

By Chris Barnardo

Is there such a thing as a Happy Ending? Even the term itself is an oxymoron, because surely if doing something or being in a certain way makes you happy, then its ending will be no doubt be sad.
. . . As more and more marriages end before “death do us part”, should we be reconsidering the use of term “failed marriage”, which passes such damaging judgment on the parties involved and just makes anyone who is going through the pain of separation from someone they love, feel even worse about themselves. If the marriage has had its moments of passion and joy, or produced beautiful, happy children, then one can hardly say it has failed. Perhaps instead we should begin to think that at the end of a marriage, it’s just that the relationship has run its course. When we really believe that, we can stop beating ourselves up and thinking that we are failures. We can start being proud of the great time we had together and the wonderful things that came out of the relationship, and finally we can even accept that by working together with our ex-partner we can continue to provide a happy and nurturing environment for our children to grow up in, even though as parents we have chosen not to live with each other.
. . . Over 150 years ago, Lord Tennyson had it right when he said:
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
To celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, I have picked my top ten favourite famous couples from the beginning of time, and thought about how they got on. I have rated their relationships for passion, love and a happy ending.

What do you think?

  1. Zeus and Hera
    In Greek mythology, Zeus, ruler of the gods, married his sister Hera (the goddess of women and marriage) after eating his first wife. As it happens, Hera didn’t want to marry Zeus and had been refusing his advances for 300 years. Finally Zeus had to resort to trickery to get his way. One spring, Zeus created a violent thunderstorm and transforming himself into a small cuckoo, flew into Hera’s bedroom. Wet and cold he flew straight into Hera’s hands, and as she tended him, he turned back into his normal form and forced her to be his wife.

    Happy ending?
    Well, after they were married, Zeus had numerous affairs with mortal women and Hera was interminably jealous, but then what can you expect if you have to live together forever?

    Passion: 6/10
    Love: 5/10
    Happy ending: 3/10

  2. Adam and Eve
    Muslim, Christian and Jewish faiths all trace their lineage back to that archetypal couple, Adam and Eve, the parents of the human race. God first creates Adam by breathing life into a ball of clay and then makes Eve from part of his side, to stand at his side, and the rest as they say, is history.

    Happy ending?
    Every partnership goes through its rough patches, but even though early on in their relationship they were banished from Paradise, one of their sons fought and killed the other in a fit of jealous rage, Adam and Eve stuck it out together for over 900 years, but religious texts are sketchy as to whether or not they were happy.

    Passion: 2/10
    Love: 5/10
    Happy ending value: 9/10

  3. Samson and Delilah
    Brought up to wreak revenge on God’s behalf, God gives Samson is his tremendous strength to fight the Philistines and perform heroic feats that would have been unachievable by ordinary men. He wrestles a lion, slays an entire army with the jawbone of an ass, and eventually destroys a temple with his bare hands. He led the Israelites for 20 years but when he fell in love with Delilah, it all started to go wrong.

    Happy ending?
    Samson loved Delilah, but the Philistines bribed Delilah with silver to discover the secret of Samson’s strength. On finding out that his strength was bound up in a promise that his mother had made with God, never to cut his hair, the Philistines shave his hair while he slept. With his strength gone, the Philistines blind him and keep him captive in Gaza. Eventually of course, his hair grows back and with it his strength returns, enabling him to perform one final act of revenge. When his enemies gather to celebrate he raises their temple, killing himself and them all.

    Passion: 8/10
    Love: 6/10
    Happy ending value: 1/10

  4. Romeo and Juliet
    The story of Romeo and Juliet belongs to a tradition of tragic romances stretching back to the beginning of storytelling. Romeo Montague and Juliet Capulet are the archetypal tragically unfortunate young lovers. The story, written by William Shakespeare early in his writing career was among one of his most popular plays during his lifetime and, along with Hamlet, is one of his most frequently performed plays.

    Happy ending?
    Not at all. Juliet takes a powerful sleeping drug in order to pretend that she has died so that she and Romeo can elope when she awakens. Unfortunately Romeo doesn’t get to hear of the plan and finding Juliet “dead” takes poison himself so that he can join her in death. When Juliet awakens she finds Romeo dead and in her grief kills herself with his dagger.

    Passion: 10/10
    Love: 10/10
    Happy ending value: 0/10

  5. Napoleon and Josephine
    Famous for being passionate lovers and hugely unfaithful to each other, Napoleon Bonaparte was Marie-Josephe-Rose Tascher’s second husband, her first having been executed as an Aristocrat at the end of the French revolution. When Napoleon married Josephine he had great dreams for their future, giving her a gold medallion inscribed with the words "To Destiny", as a wedding present.

    Happy ending?
    After years of having affairs and publically flaunting his mistresses, Napoleon finally divorced Josephine and remarried a nineteen year old that he hoped would be able to provide him with the son and heir Josephine had failed to provide. His new wife did have a son, but when his son was only three, Napoleon was forced into exile and he was imprisoned on the island of Elba. A few months in to his exile he learned that Josephine had died. For two days he did not come out of his room, and later when he returned to France he surrounded himself with the smell of violets which had been Josephine’s favourite scent.

    Passion: 9/10
    Love: 3/10
    Happy ending value: 2/10

  6. Edward VIII and Mrs. Simpson
    Less than a year after he was proclaimed King Edward VIII of the Great Britain, Edward abdicated the throne, in order to marry an American divorcee, Mrs. Wallis Simpson.

    Happy ending?
    Edward VIII gave up everything to marry the love of his life. After his abdication he was relegated to Duke of Windsor and his brother became King George VI. Edward and Wallis moved to Paris in the hope that the move would be temporary, but the British establishment and the Royal Family made it impossible for them to come back to England, effectively exiling them in France. Over the years Edward bitterly fought in vain for his wife to have the title of Royal Highness. Edward and Wallis were married for 35 years until Edward died in 1972. Wallis died 14 years later and is buried next to him in the Royal burial Ground at Frogmore.

    Passion: 9/10
    Love: 9/10
    Happy ending value: 7/10

  7. Scarlet and Rhett
    A wide boy from America’s Deep South, Rhett Butler fancies an obsessive teenage belle, Scarlett O'Hara, but she loves her posh neighbour, Ashley Wilkes. When Ashley marries someone else Scarlet marries his wife’s brother, Charles. However, when Charles is killed at the beginning of the Civil War, Scarlet’s beloved ancestral home falls into the hands of the enemy, forcing her to find a new husband as quickly as possible to help her get her house back. With Rhett unavailable in jail, Scarlet courts and marries her sister’s boy friend, Frank Kennedy, but he is soon killed by an angry mob and finally Rhett Butler and Scarlet O’Hara get together and marry.

    Happy ending?
    Although Rhett hopes that Scarlett will eventually fall in love with him, but she remains distant as she continues to pine after Ashley. When their daughter, Bonnie, falls off a pony and dies, the tragedy causes a rift between the two which is impossible to bridge. After years of waiting, Scarlet finally tells Rhett that she loves him, but by then it is too late for Rhett and as he leaves, he utters the now immortal line, "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn."

    Passion: 9/10
    Love: 6/10
    Happy ending value: 1/10

  8. Superman and Lois Lane
    An almost invincible alien and a crack reporter have almost the perfect relationship that has endured for over 70 years. Lois Joanne Lane-Kent is now Superman’s wife, although for years, despite the fact she was renowned as a highly intelligent and successful investigative journalist, she was unable to see through Clark Kent’s joke-shop tie and glasses disguise.

    Happy ending?
    Well, yes... and no, in that it’s not so much of an ending as a carrying on. Since the late 1930’s Lois has been the main woman in Superman’s life. In their relationship (and latterly) marriage, Superman has always been a gentleman and very protective towards Lois, something that of all men, Superman is supremely qualified to be. If any couple can be said to have a chance at living happily ever after, then an indestructible super being and his beautiful, intelligent, faithful and apparently ageless wife should have had the best chance at it.

    Passion: 3/10
    Love: 9/10
    Happy ending value: 10/10

  9. John and Yoko Lennon
    Yoko Ono was John Lennon’s second wife. Yoko was blamed for the break-up of the Beatles, but it was their legendary “bed-in” protest when they spent a week in bed under the glare of the world’s media as a peace protest against the Vietnam War, that cemented them as a loving couple in everyone’s minds.

    Happy ending?
    John and Yoko’s relationship was a stormy one, but they shared their passion of music and world peace. Nevertheless, about half way through their relationship, Yoko decided that they should take a break, and John spent eighteen months on what he called “his lost weekend” with May Pang, John and Yoko’s personal assistant. In 1975 John and Yoko were reunited and Yoko gave birth to their son, Sean, later that year. I think that this counts as a happy ending, even though their time was cut short when John was killed by fan-stalker Mark Chapman on the 8th December 1980.

    Passion: 10/10
    Love: 10/10
    Happy ending value: 7/10

  10. Han Solo and Princess Leia
    Throughout the first Star Wars film (fourth instalment) there is a palpable chemistry and flirtatious romance between the beautiful, tomboy princess, Leia and the MacGyveresk smuggler, Han Solo. Every princess needs her bit of rough just as much as every Dan Dare enjoys fine china and feather pillows, and so it follows that we want them to conquer each other, get together and live happily ever after. The relationship smoulders for three whole films finally coming to a head in the Return of the Jedi.

    Happy ending?
    That depends, to some extent, on whose version of the ending you want to believe. There are of course novels that chart the course of those turbulent post Return Of The Jedi years after the death of Emperor Palpatine and the destruction of the Empire, but it wasn’t all plain sailing for our rebel heroes. In the novel The Courtship of Princess Leia, Han finally resigns his commission and stops flying solo in order to pursue Leia, whom he eventually marries on Coruscant after helping to kill an Imperial warlord. However, you might also be interested to know that Star Wars creator, George Lucas has other ideas. In a 2005 interview with MTV News, Lucas stated: "Han and Leia probably did get married. They settled down. She became a senator, and they got a nice little house with a white picket fence. Han Solo is out there cooking burgers on the grill. Is that a movie? I don't think so." He might not think it would make a movie (although I’m not sure about that one) but it certainly gets my vote as a happy ending. After all, if you have saved a galaxy, even one far away and it was a long time ago, you deserve to relax and have a bit of fun.

    Passion: 3/10
    Love: 5/10
    Happy ending value: 10/10


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