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Getting ready for a new arrival

By Anthony Barnardo

When you become a dad for the first time your life changes dramatically; not only is there going to be a new person in your life, there’s going to be a new person in your home. And if it’s your first child, chances are you’ll need to make a change or two to your environment to get things just right for them. Here’s the top ten things you can do to make your home ready for a new baby. But these things won’t just make the little one happy in their new home - you’ll feel good too about having taken some solid, practical steps to prepare for the big change.

  1. Make space
    You’ll be amazed at how much room such a small person can take up, once you allow for the new furniture, pushchair and so on. The first step in getting your home ready for a new baby is to make some space – you’re going to need it. Take the opportunity now to get rid of any old junk you’ve got lying around the house and don’t need any more. Unwanted things in good condition can go to the local charity shop. Some places will even collect large items such as furniture, so it’s worth checking in the yellow pages or on the web for the nearest charity furniture shop before making a trip to the dump. Alternatively, online services such as Freecycle are worth looking into. You never know, you might even be able to sell some of your junk on eBay - the extra cash will come in handy soon enough.

  2. Finish any odd jobs
    Now’s a good time to finish any DIY jobs you need to do around the house. Once the baby arrives you’re going to get less DIY done – but that’s a good thing, right? Plan any bigger projects and start early so you know you’ll be able to finish them in good time. Nothing will annoy the baby’s mother, as d-day approaches, than a pile of dusty decorating sheets or a hole in the wall. For quick wins, focus on the little things that will make the home environment more pleasant for the baby and mother. Have a look round and see what needs to be done. Don’t start anything you’re not sure you can finish before the baby comes.

  3. Fit draft-excluders
    Of all the little DIY jobs that might need doing, one deserves a special mention. Babies can be very sensitive to drafts – particularly if they are going to spend time in a carrycot, baby-carrier or play-gym situated on the floor or low to the floor. To check for drafts in baby’s areas, put your face low to the ground, about where baby would be situated. Your cheeks are more sensitive and better able to detect a cold draft than your hands are.

  4. Plan the space
    So you’ve made some space and polished off all those little odd jobs. Now you can go out and buy a load more stuff, right? Not quite yet. First you need to plan a little: where is it all going to go? Agree where the baby will sleep, where nappy changing will happen, where you will store the pram or pushchair when it’s not being used, and where all the other smaller items will fit, such as a bottle steriliser. It might help to draw a rough diagram for each room to see how it might work.

  5. Make sure you can control the nursery temperature accurately
    Buy a reliable room thermometer now and put it in the nursery, so you can check early whether you will be able to keep the room within the temperature range recommended for sleeping babies. That way, if the room is getting too hot or too cold, you find out now, with plenty of time to do something about it.

  6. Decorate the nursery
    Although you might be planning to have the baby sleep in your room for the first few months, it’s a good idea to have the nursery ready from birth just in case there are any changes of plan. In any case, you’re not going to have time or the energy to decorate the room once the little one arrives; and even if the baby sleeps in your room at night, if the nursery is ready, then the baby can spend some time in there during the day, getting used to the room, before they move in permanently.

  7. Beg and Borrow before you Buy
    With any luck you’ll know some other young dads through work, friends or family, that you can borrow or buy items from them that they don’t use any more – you’ll save a load of cash that way and much of it will seem nearly new as babies grow out of things very quickly. Because babies grow out of clothes so quickly, lots of hardly worn nearly new stuff can be found at car boot sales and local bazaars. Top tip: make sure all the big stuff you get is going to fit the space you have in your house and car. Make double sure that the pushchair you get fits in the boot of your car. Don’t take the sales assistant’s or seller’s word for it - get them to bring it out to the car park so you can prove it.

  8. Get the car ready
    While we’re on the subject of cars, if you have one make sure that you get it serviced and safe for baby as you get nearer to the due date. Remember that babies don’t work to a calendar – they can come early! Don’t be caught out by a car that won’t start or breaks down on the way to the hospital. You will be seriously unpopular with baby’s mother if that happens. Make sure you have the right straps and fixings to hold the carry cot or baby seat securely and legally.

  9. Start thinking about “babyproofing”
    Most aspects of so-called “baby-proofing”, such as fitting powerpoint covers to wall plug sockets, fitting table-corner cushions, and screwing in stairgates, you won’t strictly need to have ready until baby is a bit older and starting to crawl around by themselves. However, it’s still well worth thinking about now while you have more time on your hands.

  10. Get the supplies in
    Now is the time to use all your innate hunter gatherer skills to practically prepare for the big day and the week of sleep deprivation and general excited chaos that follows. Whether you’re going to go with disposable nappies or reusables, stock up now. You’ll be doing plenty of baby-changing in the first few days. Stock up on food groceries too, a few cartons of long life milk, some sliced bread in the freezer and few frozen ready meals will really come in handy and save you having to go food shopping the minute you get back from the hospital with your new family member.


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