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Finding dad a date: Part 2, The Dates

by James Mortimer

I hope you liked what I wrote last time, like I said getting involved with Find Dad A Date on Christian O'Connell's Absolute Radio Breakfast Show was all very sudden and I didn't really expect to get through, let alone win the competition. To be honest, it’s been a whirlwind week and I felt shattered afterwards, so I tried to just relax with my son over the weekend, but as you know kids and relaxation don't really go hand in hand. I did manage to get Joseph to sit through a whole Star Wars on Saturday morning though.
. . . Anyway back to the actual dates; the first one was at the Hard Rock Cafe on London’s Park Lane. I had managed to get in contact with Roxy prior to turning up, so we agreed to have a quick drink first to take the pressure off but we got along so well that Richie (the exec producer of the Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show) was outside for half an hour waiting for us… oops! Roxy works for a gourmet food company so we just started talking food and didn't stop - even our interview on Absolute Radio the following day was based around chocolate. She was nice girl (well I should say woman really) and I enjoyed her company.
. . . I also did the same trick with date number two and met her for a quick beer before heading to The London Eye – you should have seen Richie’s face, very funny! This girl was called Steph but I nicknamed her Tigger as she bounced around like a mad girl but was great fun. Absolute Radio hired a whole capsule for us and handed us glasses of Champagne, well the butler did anyway. Poor old Richie had to get on his knees after ten minutes as he is scared of heights, bless him, but I suppose he didn't know me well enough by then and he had a duty to protect the ladies, so put his own fear aside.... good man. After that we went to All Bar One and let’s just say we didn't run out of things to talk about. Richie saw that we were getting on, so he left us alone and once this happened we hit Piccadilly, then got a rickshaw and just messed around for the rest of the night. I really did have fun with her, lots of energy and lots of smiles.
. . . On the Wednesday I had a break from the dates as I had a business meeting in Paris. After lunch I had a few hours to look around and I went straight to the Arc de Triomphe, as this is where I proposed to Lisa (my wife). It was a very hard thing to do and I cried for sometime there, but it was absolutely necessary for me to go there, because every day that passes I get stronger and she would have expected nothing less of me to be honest. She told me to get out there and I won’t let her down.

I got back late Wednesday, knackered as expected, and had a real full-on day at work on Thursday so was quite for date number three that evening. The guys and girls up at Absolute Radio had worked me out by now, so nobody there gave me Rachel’s surname, which meant I couldn’t arrange a sneaky pre-date drink... very clever! So this was the first real surprise date, but I still managed to speak to the photographer and meet up early with him for a swift beer, he-he. We went down to the Bar du Vin (in Brighton this time), which is part of the Hotel du Vin group; very good food and a lovely wine selection. When I first saw her Rachel, I thought she was good looking and very Brighton. We sat down and to be honest, got on well; obviously both living in Brighton is meant it was quite easy to relate to things. I got the impression that she was very nervous, so tried to be very gentle with her, but once I got a few drinks down her, she was fine - the old tricks always work. Anyway it turned out that she was a vegetarian and we were basically in a fish restaurant, so ordering was funny. I ended up ordering for her, and the manager had to make up a mixture of two dishes! Once we finished up, we went for some cocktails and some drinks then each went our own way.
. . . So there we go; a breakdown of what happened. It was scary at first, as it was my first three dates in 10 years, but they went very well and they were all nice girls (sorry women). They were also all very different, and considering I chose them over the telephone after speaking with them for 10 seconds or so I didn't choose badly at all.
. . . So Thursday night was decision night for me, I didn't want to hurt any of the girls’ feelings, so decided that I would just draw the name from a hat (well plastic bag). You have read what I did on all three nights and it just so happened that Steph was the name that came out of the bag! I have chatted to her a few times since and am looking forward to seeing her again, I can pretty much guarantee that we will have a laugh together.
. . . So, it’s funny really; I went from not even bothering to look at women, as I thought they would just see a man that had just lost his wife, has a kid, baggage blah blah blah, to actually realising that women like single dads.

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